Ever feels like you're slightly slower in 'getting there' than your former classmates? Why am I still in this class when all my friends are already in some big posts in bigger companies? Why is he driving a BMW while I still driving my faithful Saga? How pretty she looks with all the branded things and I'm still wearing my baju kurung from the pre-university years?
I have, and not very proud of it.
I used to be a no-risk, no-pain, no-gain girl. Always afraid to try new things. Always afraid that everybody will laugh at me when I failed at something. But nobody does, because I didn't had the guts to try anything in the first place.
Somehow I only try things that I knew I can be good at, such as the cross-stitch class instead of that computer class which I really love to go to. Why not the computer class? Because it's for the wizards who knows their computer language, I reasoned out.
Why not the advanced recorder class? It's for the popular girls, I'm sure they play better than me (even though the music teacher had singled out my playing as excellent, and my classmates had said out loud that they wish to play like me). There're always something which I created myself that scares me to make that first step.
And how I wish I knew then what I know now.
What is it that I know that would make a huge difference back then? Courage to try. Take the first step. Start by starting.
I know now that everybody else is as scared as you to make that first step, but somebody had given it a try, and succeed.
I know now that nobody will laugh at you when you try (except when you're doing something stupid). They will admire your courage for giving it a go, instead.
I know now that by taking that first step, will make me ahead of my peers. I've got nothing to loose but everything to gain. Even if I fail, I know one thing, that I sucks at that particular thing. And I can always try something else.
I'm teaching my children this particular value now. Hope they will understand it earlier than me. Don't be afraid to try child, I will love you no matter what.
This is a very good read & advice UmmuHafidz. Those who never walk the highway, but take a short-cut, will end up lost on the road..
ReplyDeleteGrowing up as an adventurous, brave & courageous kid enables me to have high confidence in determining what I wanted to do in my life. The same confidence gained me trust from my parents for most of the thing I've decided to do. It teaches me self-survival at my early age, so even when I have means to cry for help I never dare to abused it other than deeply necessary, I would rather find my own solution, and feel deeply satisfied that I've managed to go through all the troubles and still in one piece ;)
Being around people with courage & confidence will give you the same feelings. Draw on that feeling to give you the courage to try, show others that everything comes with a risk but if you're willing to take that risk, and as long as it won't harm you or others around you, and so they can too. If there's no one else to draw your courage on, there's always God who's watching and let's pray to Him to give you courage and guide your way.
The worst thing that can ever happened when you Try is Fail, but life won't stop for one failure, and that failure will teach you what you did wrong so you could try again for Victory. Experiencing all those kind of feelings will give you more confidence in your life, knowing that you've conquered failure, and rise again, defeated your indecisiveness and yet still breathing. And most importantly, you will be the one who actually in control of your life now - not other people, not your indecision, and not your environment. And that is my friend, is a very great and valuable feeling indeed ;)
Wish you well with your life!
- reannez -
Thanks Reannez for your kind words. Really appreciate it. Having someone like you in my circle of friends now (although only online), makes my confidence grew everyday. Thank you again for dropping by.
ReplyDeleteIm also face the same thing - afraid to make the first step, afraid of failing, afraid of being ridiculed. But then again, we hv to make the 1st giant step to know for sure!!
ReplyDeleteYes... let's make the 1st giant step together:)
ReplyDeleteI am also facing the same thing daa... grammar pon lopek.
ReplyDeleteHentam saje... apa yang penting..kerjasama... no, lah... Yang penting di sini adalah Berani Mencuba. Takde orang cek grammar kat sini..heheh..
ReplyDeletewe all owe what we know now to the lessons learned from our mistakes then. so don't let those mistakes scare us from trying something new. just don't repeat the same mistake twice :-)
ReplyDeleteWe hear you! :)
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